Lori Gottlieb, an American writer, gave birth to her son in 2006. Gottlieb’s maternity experience, on the other hand, was unlike most moms’ in that she found herself yearning to start a family without a Mr. Right. Rather than waiting for a husband, she had chosen to have a kid using a sperm bank.

The Dear Therapist author has spoken out on a variety of venues about her experiences before and after becoming a mother, particularly without a partner.

Lori Gottlieb had a difficult time finding the right donor

Gottlieb’s decision to conceive a child through donor insemination was not widely accepted at the time. As a result, she encountered various difficulties along the route.

Gottlieb revealed how difficult it was to identify the right donor in an interview with Psychotherapy Networker magazine. She went over the entire selection process in great detail, emphasizing how difficult it was to determine whether the donor she chose would have features she liked.

The columnist also recounted an event in which the sperm vial she finally chose was out of stock due to high demand. She begged a friend for his sperms out of desperation. The man, on the other hand, chose not to assist. The donor she had originally chosen became available again at the perfect time. She could also carry ahead with the procedure.

They informed me, “Well, you chose a highly popular donor, and he’s on backorder.” I was crushed after all the time it took to find a donor who felt suitable. At that time, I asked a real-life friend if he’d be my donor, and it looked like it may work out, but he finally decided against it. Fortunately, the sperm bank donor I had chosen became available again.


While the fertility counselor has spoken publicly about her difficulties in obtaining a donor, she has also discussed motherhood challenges. The good news is that she finds comedy in describing the challenges of being a single mother.

Gottlieb said in a Women’s Health blog that people would call her brave for choosing to be a single mother. The psychotherapist went on to say that she had recognized that referring to someone as brave was a method for people to express sympathy.

“Thank God I’m not in your predicament,” Brave seemed to be saying.

Despite their difficulties, the single mother has a deep bond with her son and is clearly pleased with him.

The Standford alumna wrote on her website that having a child had transformed her and made her more sympathetic. The author, on the other hand, has not been shy in expressing her wish for a traditional family.

Lori Gottlieb aspired to be part of a traditional family

Marry Him! is the title of her article. Gottlieb gave her honest view on the case for settling for Mr. Good Enough. She wrote on how her aversion to the thought of settling down made her realize that it was better to settle than to travel through life alone.

Obviously, I wasn’t always a proponent of compromise. It required not settling to convince me that settling was the preferable alternative.

The piece drew a lot of negative feedback from the unmarried mother. Her article was even labeled anti-feminist by some publications. In response to the criticism, Gottlieb stated that she realized that voicing her desire for a different life was a risky decision, but that being assaulted in this manner left her feeling hurt and misunderstood


By Meera